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Galia Clair's avatar

Idk the slobbering is a turn off for me. Definitely ask the person what things they like and don’t like. And listen, also be open to suggestions without being defensive or getting your feelings hurt. And if she’s afraid to ask you to change it up or do something differently/better, ask directly “hey, how was that for you?” “How can I make you feel better?” “Do you like when I did __?” “What did you not enjoy?” Etc. there’s no one way to please a person so keep that in mind. And for the love of god don’t use porn as a guide since it is acting.

-sincerely a person with a vagina

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Fal's avatar

A pretty decent guide for anyone who hasn’t done it before. However, I feel like you missed the most important step 1 - ask what she likes!

For me, slobber is an absolute turn off, as is any sort of touching my chest or fingering (unless I’m really in the mood for it). I would be asking to stop before we even make it to the end of these steps. Don’t get me wrong, this an excellent guide, but men, PLEASE tailor it your woman and her preferences. We don’t all like all of this.

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