How To Cum At The Same Time

5 Tips For A Simultaneous Orgasm

Coming together at the same time. Getting off together, whatever you want to call it. Some think its a must, others only see it in the films and tv we watch, or have read it in books. But what is this myth and how do we do it together ?

Do people actually have orgasms at the same?

Yes and here’s how.

What is a simultaneous orgasm?

A simultaneous orgasm, also known as a coordinated climax, is when two people reach orgasm at the same time during a sexual encounter. While it's a desirable outcome for some couples, it's not always the most practical or common experience due to the varied nature of individual sexual responses.

why do people think having a simultaneous orgasm matters ?

The idea is that people value simultaneous orgasms because they are often associated with increased sexual satisfaction, stronger partner bonds, and heightened intimacy. Studies have shown that couples who experience them, report greater overall life satisfaction and sexual well-being.

In other words, You become completely absorbed in each other, You are completely ‘in-sync’ and that is a very special intimate feeling. your are truly equal.

How likely is it, really?

Good question. Maybe you’ve been with your partner a pretty long time or you feel you know each other pretty well, but how many people actually have simultaneous orgasms, right.

One disadvantage of simultaneous orgasm, is that the pressure to time your orgasm precisely, can distract from the pleasure. This can lead to stress, that an orgasm is no longer even possible.

Also, men cum faster than most women and this is called premature ejaculation. But why do we think sex is over when one of us has cum first or last? An ejaculation is only premature if sex is over afterwards. And it is not! You are perfectly capable of focusing all your attention on your partner with oral sex, or by satisfying your partner with your hand or with a sex toy. Unless you're intimated by the toy being bigger than yourself, selfish!

According to a 2017 survey by U.K.-based sex toy company Lovehoney, 4,400 people showed that 61% of couples strive for a simultaneous orgasm. 89 per cent of couples have experienced simultaneous orgasms once. 37 per cent have experienced them half of the time or more and the average couple orgasms at the same time once every three times they have sex.

So yo ask again, how?

Here’s how.

1. Masturbate. Better yet, try mutual masturbation.

   Mutual masturbation usually refers to touching yourself while your partner watches and maybe touches themselves (hence the word mutual).

when partners stimulate themselves sexually while being together, tend to also exhibit higher levels of sexual satisfaction in their romantic relationships, according to new research.

You get to watch and learn what your partner needs.

2. Be Vocal. Being communicative during sex, both verbally and nonverbally, is crucial for a fulfilling and pleasurable experience. It allows partners to explore their desires, boundaries, and preferences, leading to a more enjoyable and satisfying sex life.

Here's how to improve sexual communication:

• Verbal Communication:

  • Express your desires: Share what you like and don't like, and be open to trying new things.

  • Use clear language: Avoid ambiguity and be direct about your needs and preferences.

  • Check in with your partner: Ask them how they're feeling and if they're enjoying themselves.

  • Listen actively: Pay attention to your partner's responses and make sure you understand their needs.

  • Validate their emotions: Acknowledge and accept their feelings, even if they're not what you expect.

  • Focus on understanding, not fixing: Avoid jumping to solutions and instead try to understand what's happening.

• Nonverbal Communication:

  • Use body language: Move your body, touch your partner, and adjust your pace and tone to express your pleasure and desire.

  • Eye contact: Maintain eye contact to show you are present and engaged.

  • Physical touch: Use touch to guide your partner and communicate what you like.

  • Silence: Sometimes, nonverbal cues can be just as powerful as words.

• Setting the Stage:

  • Create a comfortable environment: Make sure your space is conducive to intimacy and relaxation.

  • Set aside dedicated time: Don't rush sex and give yourselves the time to connect and explore.

  • Be open to new experiences: Try new things together and be willing to explore your desires.

By practicing these tips, you can foster a more open, honest, and enjoyable sexual communication with your partner, leading to a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.

“Cum for me baby”.

3. Sync Your Breath. Synchronizing your breath during sex, or "breathwork," can enhance pleasure and improve the experience for both individuals. By consciously coordinating your breathing patterns, you can deepen relaxation, increase arousal, and prolong the experience.

   Here's how to practice breathwork during sex. Start with slow, deep breaths:

   1.Focus on inhaling deeply through the nose, allowing your belly to expand, and exhale slowly through the mouth, allowing your shoulders to relax.

   2. Coordinate with your partner:

   Encourage your partner to breathe in sync with you, either by mirroring your breathing pattern or matching the rhythm of your movements.

   3. Notice the sensations:

   Pay attention to how the breath feels in your body, how it connects you to your partner, and how it impacts your emotional state.

   4. Experiment with different breathing techniques:

   Explore variations like box breathing (inhale, hold, exhale, hold), or diaphragmatic breathing, which focuses on engaging the diaphragm to facilitate deeper breaths.

   5. Use breathwork to enhance specific moments:

   For example, you can use slow, controlled breaths to help manage tension or anxiety, or you can use more rapid breaths to build anticipation.

   By incorporating breathwork into your sexual experience, you can deepen the connection with your partner, enhance your senses, and potentially experience greater pleasure and satisfaction. Psychology Today suggests that focusing on the breath can increase pleasure and mindfulness. A Reddit thread notes that physiological synchrony, including heart rate synchronization, can be linked to greater sexual satisfaction. The Pelvic Health and Rehabilitation Center emphasizes the importance of pelvic floor muscle function and breathing in sexual pleasure.

4. Countdown. Maybe its not hot but for it to be simultaneous, you may have to countdown.

5. Cum Together. Move up to each other, come close to her, come close to him, Meet your lips and kiss. Last but not least after you've both finished ask, “let’s to cum again”.

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