A guide to clitoral Orgasm
12 Techniques For Intense Orgasms. How to touch, tips, and how it feels.
With national orgasm day coming up (july 31st), I thought i’d give some tips for having a stronger orgasm, and if you're curious to explore clitoral orgasms, here are a few tips that can help you enhance the experience.
Your Environment & Frame Of Mind
• Make sure your bedroom is fresh and clean.
• Set up the lights in a way that makes you feel comfortable. Or even just turning off the lights altogether.
• Light a scented candle, burning incense or wearing a perfume that gets you in the mood.
• Have a glass or two of wine to relax and get in the mood.
• Wear something that makes you feel sexy or wear nothing at all.
1. Foreplay is key and it matters.
We often forget to spend time building tension and arousal and foreplay is generally considered an essential part of sexual activity, contributing to both physical and emotional intimacy.
It enhances arousal, improves lubrication, and can deepen the connection between partners. For many, it's a crucial component of a satisfying sexual experience, especially for women, who may require more time to reach optimal arousal.
Here's why foreplay is important:
Physical Benefits:
Foreplay increases blood flow to the genitals, leading to natural lubrication and physical arousal. This can make intercourse more comfortable and pleasurable.
Emotional Intimacy:
Foreplay allows couples to connect on a deeper emotional level, fostering intimacy and communication. It's a time to explore each other's desires, experiment with different techniques, and build anticipation.
Improved Experience:
By preparing both body and mind, foreplay can lead to a more satisfying and intense sexual experience for all involved.
Individual Differences:
The duration and intensity of foreplay can vary greatly depending on individual preferences and needs. Some couples prefer a longer, more drawn-out experience, while others prefer a shorter, more intense build-up. The key is to communicate and find what works best for both partners.
In essence, foreplay is more than just a warm-up; it's an integral part of creating a pleasurable and intimate sexual encounter.
2. Be Vocal.
Being communicative during sex, both verbally and nonverbally, is crucial for a fulfilling and pleasurable experience. It allows partners to explore their desires, boundaries, and preferences, leading to a more enjoyable and satisfying sex life.
Here's how to improve sexual communication:
Verbal Communication:
Express your desires: Share what you like and don't like, and be open to trying new things.
Use clear language: Avoid ambiguity and be direct about your needs and preferences.
Check in with your partner: Ask them how they're feeling and if they're enjoying themselves.
Listen actively: Pay attention to your partner's responses and make sure you understand their needs.
Validate their emotions: Acknowledge and accept their feelings, even if they're not what you expect.
Focus on understanding, not fixing: Avoid jumping to solutions and instead try to understand what's happening.
Nonverbal Communication:
Use body language: Move your body, touch your partner, and adjust your pace and tone to express your pleasure and desire.
Eye contact: Maintain eye contact to show you are present and engaged.
Physical touch: Use touch to guide your partner and communicate what you like.
Silence: Sometimes, nonverbal cues can be just as powerful as words.
Setting the Stage:
Create a comfortable environment: Make sure your space is conducive to intimacy and relaxation.
Set aside dedicated time: Don't rush sex and give yourselves the time to connect and explore.
Be open to new experiences: Try new things together and be willing to explore your desires.
By practicing these tips, you can foster a more open, honest, and enjoyable sexual communication with your partner, leading to a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.
What does a clitoral orgasm feel like?
A clitoral orgasm is typically characterized by a sharp, intense, and often short-lived burst of sensation, often described as a release of built-up sexual tension. It's primarily achieved through direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris, the external part of female genitalia located at the top of the vaginal opening.
Here's a breakdown of what a clitoral orgasm might feel like, based on different descriptions:
Intense and Localized: The sensation is often felt most strongly in the genital area.
Sharp and Bursting: Some describe it as a sharp, intense, and even bursting sensation.
Electric Surge or Wave: Others have likened it to an electric surge of pleasure or a powerful wave crashing over them.
Short-Lived but Intense: While potentially very intense, clitoral orgasms are often described as being shorter in duration compared to some other types of orgasms.
Tingling or Surface Sensation: The feeling can also be described as a tingling sensation on the surface of the skin.
Relief and Relaxation: After the peak intensity, the body may feel relaxed, relieved, or even slightly numb.
Clitoral vs. vaginal orgasm
Clitoral and vaginal orgasms are different experiences with varying intensities and sources of stimulation. Clitoral orgasms are typically triggered by direct stimulation of the clitoris, while vaginal orgasms can be achieved through stimulation of the vagina, potentially including the G-spot, and other areas like the cervix or nipples. Studies show that clitoral stimulation is the most reliable way for women to achieve orgasm. While some women experience vaginal orgasms as deeper and more intense, others find clitoral orgasms more controllable.
Key Differences:
Stimulation:
Clitoral orgasms are primarily triggered by direct stimulation of the clitoris, while vaginal orgasms can result from stimulation of the vagina and surrounding areas.
Intensity:
Some women report vaginal orgasms as being more intense or longer-lasting than clitoral orgasms, while others experience them as equally intense or even less so.
Control:
Some women find clitoral orgasms easier to control and predict, while others find them less intense than vaginal orgasms.
Sources of Stimulation:
Beyond the clitoris, other areas like the G-spot, cervix, and even nipples can contribute to orgasmic response.
Subjective Experience:
The subjective experience of orgasm varies greatly among women, with some finding clitoral stimulation more pleasurable and others preferring vaginal stimulation.
Important Considerations:
No Superiority:
There is no evidence to suggest that either type of orgasm is inherently superior. Individual preferences and responses vary.
Complexity of Female Sexuality:
Female sexuality is complex and multifaceted. Many women experience a combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation during sex, making it difficult to isolate a single source for their orgasms.
Individual Variation:
It is important to acknowledge that each woman's experience is unique and may differ from others' experiences.
Focus on Pleasure:
The ultimate goal should be to explore what feels pleasurable and enjoyable for each individual.
3. Draw circles Softly On The Side
This first clitoral stimulation technique is very easy. You just need to rub the side of the clit with one finger. With your finger, draw a circle around the clitoris. Rub the clitoral hood or keep your finger just far enough away from it so that it’s not making direct contact. Run your fingers from side-to-side, try going in circular motions right at the center of the bud and then making the circles larger. Add more fingers. 2, 3 and 4 Fingers. This of course will provide more stimulation, with each finger running over your clit right after the previous one. You might even apply pressure. Flatten your palm, press it flat over the clitoris area, and move it in circles for even less localized stimulation.
4. Tapity tap & Flick the bean
Tap & climax. With a finger, gently tap on the clitoris. Play around with the speed, going slower and faster, see how it feels. Add more fingers for a larger surface around the clit. Play with the rhythm: tap, pause, tap, pause, tap, tap, tap, tap, pause, tap pause, et cetera.
5. The Grind
An effective clitoral stimulation technique you can use is the geind. This technique involves using an object to grind the clitoris and vulva. It could be a pillow you place between your legs or a sex toy. But you can also use your hand or your partners hand. hold the heel of your palm against the clitoris and move your hips against it.
6. Consider using lube
Using lube can enhance sexual experiences by increasing pleasure and reducing discomfort. It can also make sex safer by minimizing friction and reducing the risk of injury. There are different types of lube available, each with its own benefits and drawbacks, so choosing the right one depends on individual preferences and needs.
Here's a more detailed look:
Benefits of using lube:
Increased pleasure:
Lubricants can make sex more enjoyable by reducing friction and enhancing sensations.
Reduced discomfort and pain:
Lube can be helpful for those experiencing dryness, pain during sex, or discomfort during certain positions.
Safer sex:
Lube can reduce the risk of condom breakage and STIs, and it can also minimize the risk of injury during sex.
Versatility:
Lube can be used for various types of sexual activity, including vaginal, anal, and oral sex, as well as with sex toys.
Types of lube:
Water-based lubes:
These are generally safe and compatible with most condoms and toys, and they are easy to clean up.
Silicone-based lubes:
These are long-lasting and waterproof, making them a good choice for longer sessions or shower sex, but they can be more difficult to clean and may not be compatible with silicone sex toys.
Oil-based lubes:
These are very long-lasting and good for external play, but they can damage latex condoms and toys and may not be suitable for internal use.
Hybrid lubes:
These combine different ingredients to offer a balance of benefits, such as being water-based with aloe vera for added moisture.
When to consider using lube:
When experiencing vaginal dryness: This can occur naturally or due to hormonal changes, medications, or other factors.
For anal sex: Lube is essential for anal sex to reduce friction and minimize the risk of injury.
With sex toys: Lube can enhance the experience and protect the toys.
When trying new positions or sexual activities: Lube can make unfamiliar movements more comfortable.
When wanting to enhance pleasure: Lube can intensify sensations and make sex more enjoyable for both partners.
Important considerations:
Choose a lube compatible with your chosen method of contraception (e.g., condoms).
Consider your own preferences and sensitivities when choosing a lube.
Always check the ingredients and avoid lubes that contain ingredients you may be allergic to.
If you're unsure about which lube is right for you, consult with a healthcare professional or a trusted source of information.
7. Edge yourself
How it works:
You gradually increase stimulation until you feel the urge to ejaculate, then reduce or stop the stimulation to prevent orgasm.
Goal:
The goal is to build up more intense sensations and a more satisfying climax. Edging is a sexual practice of delaying an orgasm. The build-up of sexual arousal can lead to very intense orgasms, and it also helps you learn more about your body and what feels good.
How to edge:
Stimulate: Start by engaging in sexual activity that brings you close to the point of orgasm.
Stop: When you feel you are about to climax, reduce or stop the stimulation.
Wait: Allow the intense sensations to subside slightly.
Repeat: Resume stimulation and repeat the process of approaching the edge and backing off, building up to a more powerful climax.
Potential benefits:
Increased sexual pleasure: Edging can intensify the orgasm and make it more satisfying.
Improved sexual control: It may help individuals learn to manage and delay ejaculation.
Enhanced sexual stamina: Some individuals find that edging can help them last longer during intercourse.
Enhanced intimacy: Edging can be a fun and playful activity to do with a partner.
Important considerations:
Balance: Moderation is key. Excessive edging may lead to negative effects in some individuals.
Individual differences: The effectiveness and enjoyment of edging can vary from person to person.
Potential side effects: Some people may experience temporary discomfort or frustration from not reaching orgasm.
8. Watch yourself in the mirror, Watch and learn.
Reflecting on the beauty of pleasure, Watching yourself or each other in the mirror while masturbating offers a very empowering and educational experience, exploring self-pleasure and sexual discovery. You can sit in front of the mirror or hold a mirror with a hand and watch yourself or watch your partner touch themselves to learn. As you touch yourselves or each other, observe how your bodies respond, reacts, and changes.
“I love watching you”
“Can you show me how you do it?"
9. Kivin method
The Kivin method is a type of cunnilingus (oral sex performed on a vulva) in which the giver lies perpendicular to the receiver, stimulating the clitoris, vulva, and perineum from the side.
Instead of being between your partner's legs during oral sex, you might lie down on either of their sides. This position allows you to stimulate your partner's clitoris from side to side, which might feel more pleasurable for some.
10. Dry humping
Dry humping generally involves rubbing or grinding your genitals against your partner's body or genitals. It can be a very fun way to pleasure each other. You may do it with clothes on or fully naked.
place your thigh between your partner's legs and push it against the vulva so they can grind their hips and their clitoris into your leg.
you may lie down on your back and allow your partner to straddle you and grind their hips and vulva against your genitals. It will allow your partner to have better control of the rhythm, pressure, and speed, which can help them reach an orgasm easier.
11. Add plenty of lubrication
Adding a lube will enhance the sensations for them, which will make the stimulation more pleasurable.
12. Stay consistent
When stimulating your partner's highly sensitive, pleasure-producing clitoris, it's important to be consistent with the type of stimulation that works for them. So, once you determine the best way to touch and pleasure your partner, try to keep the speed and rhythm consistent until they reach an orgasm.
Lastly but not least, Move up to each other, come close to her, come close to him, Meet your lips and kiss. After you've both finished ask your partner if they want to,
“cum again ?”
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